How to loosen up my ass

But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: I want to start experimenting with anal sex , but I've never done it before. How can I work my way up if all I've ever had in there is a finger?

Though we're all on the kinkier side of sexuality, when the topic of pegging popped up, they didn't even recognize the term. After I explained that pegging is when a woman penetrates a man anally while wearing a dildo, my girls immediately slammed the sex act. Don't just blurt it out after a blowjob. Cavanah suggests taking the serious route, instead of goofing around.

The first rule of anal play is lube, lube, and more lube. Rectums do not produce their own lubricant the way vaginas do, so if you're going to be sticking anything up your bum you need to grease it up first. Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to lube. For anal play many folks myself included prefer lubes which are thicker and have more 'staying power. Silicone lubricants can instantly bond to and ruin your beautiful silicone dildos.

Learning how to anally finger your girl properly can be one of the most rewarding things you embark on. With anal fingering, you can actually give a girl anal orgasms which we will mention later , as well as even stimulate her G-spot — this is because the anus and vagina are actually only separated by a thin membrane, which allows sensations from one hole to be felt in the other. Anal fingering stimulates a girl mentally and emotionally.